Growing up somebody once told me that “I’ll never make friends like the ones I make in High School.” Then a few years later I heard the same thing about the people I’d meet in College… They weren’t wrong when they gave me that advice. I have a handful of friends from High School that I still can call at any hour of the night and I know that they would be there for me. I have a couple of friends that I still keep in touch with from College that I have many great memories with… No one will ever be able to replace those people and what they mean to me.
But what nobody prepared me for was the friends that I would meet while being a Marine wife…
When I first noticed the bond between Brett and his friends that he has met while in the Marine Corps, it was like something I had never seen before. The bond between them is most certainly like that between two brothers. They become the “Uncles” of each other’s children, they take care of each other’s wives and their families when one is halfway across the world, or they take care of each other when they both have to be away from home. They tell each other they love one another and aren’t afraid who hears it, and the saying, “I’d take a bullet for him” becomes more literal in their friendship.
This too, is not very far from the friendships that I have made since I have became a Marine wife. These people have become my second family… I have become the Aunt to some of their children, we are there for one another for 7 months straight when we are left to spend every one of those nights alone. We see each other at some of our weakest moments and at our strongest. We are there for one another during some of the saddest times in our lives and we get to be there during some of the happiest.
Now, you don’t have to be apart of the Marine Corps to have a friendship with these qualities… it’s just the circumstances that we go through together, that makes things a little different.
While living across the Country from my family and my best of friends, knowing that I am surrounded by these people gives me such great comfort. I know that those people at home that care about me so much, also take comfort in knowing that I have such amazing people around me when they can’t be an arms reach away.
On holidays when we can’t make it home, our friends and their families take us in as part of their own, or we have a holiday dinner with all of our friends that weren’t able to make it home to their friends and families… we.become.family.
That is what makes these friendships different, we become the family that we are missing. These people don’t replace my friends and family back home (I really want to make that clear) they take over and they step up and they become my home away from home.
What’s even more special it that when we move away from each other and our lives take us to a different city or a different town… that bond stays with us. We’ve been through something together that we will never get the chance to experience with anyone else and that will stay with us, forever.
I have learned that there are many different types of friends…
High School friends, College friends, best friends, friends of friends, facebook friends, even not so good of friends… I just feel extremely lucky to still have some of those high school and college friends and to have had the opportunity to make these special, one of a kind friendships that come with being a part of the military.